Being a hospice volunteer is beautiful and meaningful.
What’s It Like to be a Hospice Volunteer

About an hour ago, I sat with Mr. C. as he took his last breath. It was both ordinary and surreal.

Due to my work as a medium and my strong belief in the Afterlife, I’m comfortable with passing of the physical body, and my own loss of many loved ones over the years has enhanced my sense of compassion and appreciation of the beauty of a soul’s journey in crossing over. For these reasons, I decided to become a hospice volunteer.

I researched several organizations near me, in and around beautiful Asheville, NC, before approaching Four Seasons Hospice. The screening process was simple, with an online application and an in-person interview. I had to get a few medical tests and go through their training process, which was pretty straightforward.

My first assignment was to visit Ann for socialization. For over a year, I sat and chatted with Ann in her home for about an hour each week. She had a quick wit, charming personality, and an enthusiastic gratitude for my visits. We quickly became dear friends. After she passed away in her home surrounded by family, I was melancholy for a bit, and I took a couple weeks off from volunteering. I still think about Ann, and I send her my love. Sometimes I still feel her spirit sending love to me, too.

After about six months of volunteering, I joined another Four Seasons program called 11th Hour. This is a program where hospice volunteers will sit with patients who are actively in the dying process but have no family who can be there with them. It required a bit more training, but then I was on the list and waited for my first 11th Hour assignment.

The call came, and I went and sat with Don for several hours at a time, several days in a row. Although he was in and out of consciousness during my visits, he held my hand fervently when I sat with him. He was not verbal, but I could tell he was grateful to have me there. From the photos in his room, I could tell he’d been an artist, building amazing custom furniture. We listened to music together, I read Robert Frost poems to him, and I told him how I admired the photographs of his work, and I knew he was an amazing person. I was not with him when he crossed over, but his spirit came to visit me. He showed me how he used to be when he was younger, and he told me how meaningful my visits had been.

Another 11th hour call was for Virginia, a veteran who had a very strong will and a determined spirit. I spent a few evenings with her, but a family member had been able to fly in to be with her after all, and they were with her when she passed.

And that brings me to the story of Mr. C.

Earlier this afternoon, I received word from my volunteer coordinator that Mr. C had begun the active dying phase, and his family lives out of state. I’d had a full day of readings, but I said I’d go in the evening after work.

About two hours ago, I entered Mr. C’s room at the assisted living facility. He was resting peacefully, and I didn’t want to disturb him. I softly introduced myself and explained that I am a volunteer for Four Seasons Hospice and that I would be sitting with him a few hours. I adjusted the lighting to be a bit more dim and turned off the TV that was adding noise to the room but no value to someone trying to rest. I pulled my little Bluetooth speaker out of my bag and began playing my playlist of beautiful harp music.

Mr. C had bookshelves full of model ships and many books about piloting ships, so I imagined he may have been a captain or ship’s officer. I imagined the joy he’d felt at the helm, looking out at the sea.

I sat quietly reading and listening to his rhythmic breathing. I was feeling a gentle calmness when the sound of his breathing quieted. As I watched intently, he took one more breath, then … silence. I sat with him, absorbing the silence. I noted the time, 6:43 p.m., and waited a bit more. Then I felt his presence. His spirit was warm and kind, and I felt the happy vibrance I imagine befitting of a ship’s officer. I gently touched his arm, then brushed some hair off his forehead while sending him love. I exited the room and alerted the head nurse of his bodily death.

His passing was both ordinary and surreal. It was ordinary in that the process was so natural and smooth, like falling asleep. Yet it was surreal because the last time I was actually with someone at the time of their crossing over was my mother’s passing ten years ago. In our society, we spend so much of our time in the presence of the living, that, for most of us, being in the presence of the dying can feel odd or intimidating.

I hope this post brings more normalcy to the concept.

I am actually deeply honored to be able to share this sacred time with others, to help bring love and compassion to their journeys as their time on this physical plane in this physical incarnation draws to a close. I also feel that we all have a mission to help others while we’re here, so I strongly encourage people to consider being a hospice volunteer. If that doesn’t feel comfortable to you, then consider what volunteering opportunities do resonate with you.

I can honestly say it adds to my sense of inner peace and contentment knowing I am able to help others the way that I do, and it’s a thing of beauty to witness a transformation such as when Mr. “C” once again felt joy as though he were Mr. “Sea.”

Love & Light,
Psychic Medium Kelly Palmatier
Channeling White Light Towards a Better World

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Don’t Tell Me!

Sometimes people think they are being helpful when they share a little background before a reading. I appreciate the sentiment, but I actually prefer not to know anything going into a session.

For example, you may be booking a mediumship session to connect with a friend who died suddenly in an accident. You’re experiencing deep grief, and you may mention how you just need to know your friend is okay. I feel great empathy for what you’re going through, but it’s best if I don’t know even that little bit before your reading.

Imagine that your mediumship reading begins, and I tell you I’m picking up on the energy of a someone the same generation as you who died suddenly in an accident. If you’d already told me why you’d booked a reading, you may be thinking, “Great, my friend is coming through,” but that’s about it. Those details are not validating if you told me that information in advance. Now, imagine if I’d said the same thing but you hadn’t told me anything. That’s much more validating.

An evidential medium is someone who picks up on details such as a spirit’s appearance, personality, how they passed, names, dates, etc. Let the medium work to bring those details through for you.

During the reading, it’s okay to give a little bit of information. For example, let’s say I describe your great aunt’s quirky hairdo with the high volume and perfectly coiffed curls. Then it’s fine to tell me how she always wore a wig like that.

After the reading, it’s lovely if you want to share a few more details about why the information that’s come through is meaningful. Then we can bond over the shared spiritual experience.

Psychic Medium Kelly Palmatier
Channeling White Light Towards a Better World

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Born Psychic

Some people are born with 20/20 vision; others may be naturally near-sighted or far-sighted. Some people may naturally have acute hearing; others may be hearing-impaired. Babies are born every day with differences in their muscle strength as well. It’s simply a fact of human nature that, while we may all be from the human race, we all have some degree of genetic differences.

I believe most everyone has some level of intuition. A great book about this is Blink by Malcom Gladwell. The brain often picks up on information and naturally intuits conclusions – conclusions based on logical input – before the analytical skills of the brain can understand why. (This is based on science and is not proof of psychic abilities; it’s just conceptually relevant.)

I believe that psychic ability is based in part on one’s natural ability to intuit information and in part on practicing and developing the part of the brain that allows information to enter without a full, logical understanding of where the information is coming from.

Part of that brain training involves letting go of the filters we’re conditioned to using in the everyday world. Most people can recall a time when their intuition told them something that later turned out to be accurate, but they’d ignored it because they hadn’t been able to understand a logical reason for the message to be true. This is an example of the brain’s filter preventing the full expression of intuition.

When we are children, we don’t have those filters so firmly in place. For this reason, children can often be more psychic than adults!

I remember a time when I was a child, and my older sister, Leigh, showed me a card trick. “Pick a card, any card, and I’ll tell you what it is,” she enthused. After I selected what I thought was a random card, she made a great show of concentrating before revealing the card I’d chosen with a flourish. I was so impressed, that I insisted I try it with her. When I accurately announced I knew she’d picked the four of hearts, her jaw dropped. She was shocked that I’d been able to pick up on her card without knowing the “trick.” When I saw her reaction, I understood that I had been tricked, and that my selecting her card was something abnormal. Instantly, my filter went up, and I could not repeat the result again for quite some time.

Many other psychic occurrences happened to me as a child, but it was during my high school and college years that I first started actively developing and honing my psychic skills.

Regardless of the degree of psychic ability we’re born with, I believe everyone can develop some degree of intuitive skills if they have the desire to learn and the perseverance to work at it.

Psychic Medium Kelly Palmatier
Channeling White Light Towards a Better World

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